Effective Ways on How to Stop Being Jealous
Jealousy is a topic that is plaguing our attention and daily lives if it's not taken care of. No matter where you are in your life, there are chances that you are always in a situation where some emotional jealousy is not what you desire.
Yet jealousy has a personality of actually coming into your life overtaking your attention and not allowing you to be the person that you want to be.
#1 Be incredibly honest and aware
The number one mistake that people make is that when they are actually jealous, they deny that jealousy. And they think that they are too good to be jealous.
So if you're in a situation like that and you are actually jealous, please acknowledge your jealousy. Be honest with yourself and have an awareness that jealousy is what you're feeling and that it's totally fine.
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#2 Identify where in your body jealousy feels
Accept yourself and identify where in your body jealousy feels. Jealousy is an emotion that is very physical and very heavy. It can be in the form of coming into your mind all the time, but it can also allow you to feel a lot in your chest as well.
But some people are different, so identifying where the emotion is in your body allows you to draw attention to the physical effects of emotion, and therefore allowing you to tune in from a physical perspective.
Because emotions actually are quite physical when it comes to strong emotions.
#3 Breathe into Jealousy
When you're using your breath and directing it into an area of congestion, restriction, small or non contraction which is a negative emotion, then you're going to be able to really move that energy through.
What happens when you have negative emotions is that it creates a place of stuckness and congestion in your body. And you want to be able to use your consciousness and your awareness to direct your breath to it, to heal it and allow that to process and be released from your body.
If you hold on to jealousy, you're always gonna be thinking about it and it's gonna control you but you won't control it - so just breathe into it!
#4 Jot down all of the thoughts that are flying through your head
If your head is bombarded by thoughts that are unproductive and destructive, you want to be able to jot them down so they can take it out of your head and onto a piece of paper.
You may also feel ceremonial and want to burn that paper as a symbol of getting rid of those thoughts. But, it's really important for you to acknowledge those thoughts because you can't just push them away or ignore them for not being valid.
Thoughts are your thoughts that came from your brain and you got to respect them. The way that you can do that is by taking them out,looking at them and doing something with them.
#5 Understand your own capabilities and values
Oftentimes when jealousy comes into play, you feel that you are at a lower position than the person who you're jealous of or the person who has this thing that you don't have. But if you are able to own your value and capabilities and be confident and secure in yourself without judgment, it will allow you to take this whole experience and turn it into a learning experience.
In Carol Dweck's mindset book called “Mindset” there are two types of mindset, one is a “fixed mindset” in which you are stubborn and you think of things only in one direction.
And the other mindset is called the “growth mindset”, where someone is always taking things as learning experiences.
#6 Know what is it that you actually want
This is about how you would rather feel. So if you don't want to feel jealous, what is the opposite for you?
Do you want to feel free and unbothered? Do you want to feel confident in yourself? Do you want to feel free of self judgment do you want to feel secure? What is it that you actually want?
Divert the attention from the negativity of what you actually are consumed by, and turn it into the place of what you actually want.
#7 Imagine your ideal self dealing with a situation
If you aren't able to access this feeling of positivity, or even strengthen them for how to deal with the situation, then bring an ideal version of yourself into your perspective.
You can either invite it or even visualize it to see how your ideal self will deal with the situation. Then you will be able to download that information and insight and see if you can create that right now, because that is a sign of growth as well.
#8 Remind yourself of your ideal self
Always remember that you have access to a version of yourself that does not have to succumb to negativity.
If you are able to hold on to that thin string of hope and allow yourself to remind yourself all the time, come from the perspective of your ideal self or the person who you want to become. Because that person is someone who will attract a lot of opportunities, be your ideal self so that you can attract your ideal situations in life.
#9 Laugh, smile and just be happy
Happiness fills the void within. Happiness can distract you and be able to fill you up with positivity and allow you to think of many different ways in which you can feel better. That's the purpose of getting rid of jealousy - so smile and find reasons to be happy!
#10 Fill yourself with love
Be filled with self love, self compassion and self forgiveness as well. Just because you are jealous does not mean that it's gonna last forever. It also doesn't mean that you're alone, but you are responsible to fill yourself up with love.
Make sure to be clear about what makes you feel loved, and then go do it and get it.
Get it in a way that it's not relying on another person, but it's something that you can provide for yourself.
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Key takeaways:
- Jealousy is a topic that is plaguing our attention and daily lives if it's not taken care of.
- Jealousy has a personality of actually coming into your life overtaking your attention and not allowing you to be the person that you want to be.
- Discover the 10 Effective ways to process and get through jealousy.
- Drawing comparisons between yourself and other people is like comparing apples and oranges. Your journey is unique and it’s important to honor your individuality.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
YOLO Team - with Hani
After self healing from a 15 year battle with a disease, Hani has distilled the most important learnings into a multi-cultural Bestselling Author of the You Only Live Once book and now, with her team, supports leaders, change makers, and impact driven entrepreneurs to build sustainable career and businesses so that they can contribute at their highest level. She supports holistic transformations through strategy, personal growth and practical spirituality (mindfulness). The YUMMY Team’s clients span USA, Asia, Africa, Europe, and South America. They are sought after by clients and partners like Singapore Management University, Chamber of Commerce’s, Lululemon, HER Global Network, Festivals, talks and private coaching. The YOLO programs have spread across 350+ media outlets including ABC, NBC, FOX, BBC, and Forum of the Future. Prior to coaching, Hani managed global digital marketing teams at Ogilvy & Mather. She also holds a Masters of Science degree in Innovation, is a Master NLP practitioner and has been a part of Stanford and Claremont Mckenna College.
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